Tuesday, 22 September 2009


I miss my husband, who is in France to be near his sick father and spend some time with his family. I'm really busy at the moment, so I have hours without thinking of it, then it comes back: a mixture of fear, anxiety, loneliness and mostly just missing him. It seems like his papa will be OK though. I hope so with all my heart.

I'm a feminist, and I was brought up to be wary of being dependent on a man. For years I fought to maintain my emotional independence at all costs. Then I realised that it's OK to need someone, that it's actually important to depend on one another in a partnership, and that I can still be a strong, independent woman too.

So this song by Joan As Policewoman has a special resonance for me.

It's safe to be alone and be lonely
But I found a gun with no safety
And I'm gonna shoot down my ghost town completely...


Allie said...

I agree. Human beings are meant to be relational, not solitary. We are also creatures with weaknesses and shortcomings, so it is natural for us to rely and depend on one another.

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Unknown said...

Thanks for the comment, Allie!

It's hard to strike the right balance sometimes, between independence and dependency... but it's a relief to recognise the limitations of our autonomy and strength!

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